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Erinn Gilson's avatar

I agree with the spirit of this approach and especially with saying no to free "swag" (I work in higher ed, and free college-branded swag is prolific and hugely wasteful!). It's important to communicate to the business and other entities giving this stuff away that more new stuff is *not* desirable even if it is free (maybe especially if it's free... its free-ness just leads to more accumulation but also to placing less value on it).

But I think differently about free *secondhand* items: if I can repurpose, rehome, or otherwise save an item from the landfill, then I'll do it. I've definitely grabbed perfectly good items from the curb on garbage day (my neighborhood is relatively wealthy and people throw out a lot of things that should be reused) and offered them up on Buy Nothing and if there are no takers held on to them until I make a donation run. I think of this habit as a kind of service. It's a pain but keeping things out of the landfill or incinerator is more important to me than having a Kondo-esque home!

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Jenine Fisher's avatar

I too avoid free stuff because of all these reasons. I have a question for the group on a niche category of free stuff. I have kids and these kids get invited to birthday parties and at these birthday parties they receive party favor bags loaded with free stuff—annoying, small free stuff. Like temptoos that will be put in a drawer and never used and dollar store fidget spinners that will break upon one use and be thrown away and stickers of dubious quality—so many you could never use them all. I know that loving, creative hard-working moms put so much thought and care into these gift baggies, so I realize I’m revealing myself as an asshole but: I don’t want this shit in my house! Is there a graceful way to bow out? I don’t want to disrespect a party host, or be an obnoxious ingrate. But why must we do this? Does anyone have a strategy for saying “No, thank you” that doesn’t alienate a birthday party host? I’d love to hear your thoughts/experiences.

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